Live a Lie or Know the Truth

[Lady Sarkazym]

Would you rather live a lie that makes you very happy or would you want to find out the truth and ruin your happiness?
Let's say your significant other slept with someone else, you didn't know about it cause your relationship seems flawless. Do you think you would rather know the truth?

[the envy of the world]

I'll be back with my thoughts on this. I have to scurry to a dance class. But, know that I am interested in discussing this issue.

My spider senses tell me that I should want to unmask the truth, but honestly, I think I wouldn't want to know.

[Kholi]

honestly ... i think i would rather know ... but if knowing would end all trust ... and this person knows within themselves that it was the biggest mistake never to be repeated again ... i'd stay stupid.

[Erikca Sunni Nicole]

I would rather know the truth. Because the false truth the is lived when someone withholds info is good but temporary. At some point the truth will reveal itself, which will probably make matters worse with not only infidielity but hiding info. Heck, my true happiness may come by being away from someone who cannot maintain his 'dollar-fifty'.

[the envy of the world]

I'm back...so, I checked in with myself and re-evaluated my previous statement of not wanting to know the truth. I have decided that my issue with knowing the truth is about control. I would want to know the truth, but not be told or led to it by anyone else (i.e. my crew aka the homies aka the elite squad known as The Cut-A-Ho tribe). In all areas of my life I work to discover and define my truth, thus, having a loved one tell me or hear through the grape vine (a metaphor I have yet to get...but, I will Google it very soon) seems antithetical to my quest.

So...if my significant other slept w/someone else, I would want to find out on my own. This way, at least, I will own the flaws of our relationship or own the demise of it. The truth should be owned and lived on one's own terms, not followed aimlessly. If you own your truth, the consequences are still yours. I know I sound selfish and all obsessive about this whole truth thing...but, I am selfish and obsessive and controlling and...cute. Nuff said.

[.::|.|Essence|.|::.]

Ok, it's so funny that this topic is posted because I just had this convo with a friend the other day.

I'd want to know the truth because a relationship built on lies is one that won't last and while you're temporaily happy, it won't last for long because the truth always comes to light.

[wholenewdance]

Depends on the truth. If it's something like 'oh she slept with someone else'...if nothing in our relationship changes, then I don't care. If anything, that's incentive for me to go get laid outside the relationship. But if she ran over my dog i'd rather her tell me than lie and say she ran away, because i'd be mad if i wasted several hours a week sitting at the park hoping she'd turn up. (Not that that's happened, but I could totally see it happening, lol)